Thursday, March 1, 2012
However, now as I am writing this I am looking at Rhianna through the eyes of a survivor. I understand why and how if the rumor is true that she could go back to Chris. I know because I am now educated to the issue of domestic violence that the average woman goes back to her abuser 7 times. 7TIMES!! She is no longer a pop icon in my eyes but a battered woman who is making the choice to return to her abuser. I don't know if she has had and therapy or counseling after what she went through, but even if she has it does not make it any easier for her. Just like an alcoholic will always be an alcoholic ...... Rhianna will always be an abused woman. She will have that weakness when it comes to Chris just as an alcoholic has with alcohol. I can't tell you exactly what she is thinking but I can make a pretty good guess. You can bet that these are the sort of statements she is saying to herself....."He has not hit me or anyone else in over 3 years!" "He has taken anger management classes and I know that he can control himself now" "He is the only man I will ever lover and will ever love me." "Maybe he is different, maybe our situation is different, maybe he CAN change!"
For me it is going on 5 years that I have been out but still to this day I know that I do not and cannot be in the same room with that man. Someone recently asked me if I saw him again what would I say and my response was....."I'd turn and walk the other way!"